If you've never been to a play party before, it can be a bit of an overwhelming experience. Lots of people, lots of activity - lots to see and absorb.

Although most of these rules would seem obvious, it's easy to forget that play party etiquette is is a bit more complex than at a regular party. The general rule is "be super respectful of people who are already engaged in some activity together." Specifically, that means:

• The most important rule of all: don't interrupt people who are "scening" (interacting/playing). Even if they appear to be doing very little, they're still sharing an intimate space and an intimate moment. It's OK to stand at a distance and watch, but unless someone in a scene makes specific contact with you and asks you to join, you should never, ever talk to or touch the people in a scene.
• People who are playing together rarely want suggestions from others. If you think someone is doing something the wrong way, if you think you have a better way of doing something, if you have a toy you think they might want to use - keep it to yourself. A party is not a place for unsolicited advice. If you think someone is doing something extraordinarly dangerous, go find someone in charge and tell them.
• Touching people you don't know and don't have permission to touch is very bad form and will get you thrown out of a party. Just because someone is interacting in the middle of a group of people doesn't mean they want to interact with you.
• Don't pick up other people's stuff. Don't step on other people's stuff. People are pretty possessive about their toys.
• Be aware of where you're going when you're walking around. Especially in a crowded party, there's a lot of stuff going on.
• Expect to get bumped and jostled. Crowded parties are, well, crowded.

Our parties are attended by both new-comers and experienced people. We like new-comers - more people to play with! Remember that even with the best of intentions, people will make mistakes. We're all in this community together, and we were all beginners once. If we're kind and respectful when pointing out mistakes, we'll create a more fun atmosphere for everyone.