Going solo to Bound In Boston

A question that's often asked is, "I don't have a partner - will I still have a good time if I come to Bound In Boston by myself?"

The simple answer is "Yes!" A more detailed, more honest answer is probably, "It depends."

First, it depends on which con you're talking about. We usually have two large cons, in March and September, and then two smaller mini-cons in June and December. The smaller June/December mini-cons tend to be focused on specific, more intimate topics that are definitely more suited to people who come in pairs or groups. The larger March/September cons, on the other hand, are very welcoming and very appropriate for single or un-partnered people.

We usually seem to have a fairly balanced mix of solo tops and bottoms, and a pretty even gender mix. It's not perfect, but it's pretty close. While we don't have a formal procedure for matching up soloists, we do have a way to help people who are looking for partners find one another. These "I'm looking" buttons are available at the registration desk. If you're looking for a partner, pick up a button, and then look for others wearing one:

Having fun as a soloist also depends on your own personal social style. In a lot of ways, attending Bound In Boston by yourself is similar to attending any other social activity by yourself: if you enjoy meeting new people and making friends, you're likely to have a good time. On the other hand, if the thought of being in the middle of a group of people you don't know makes you woozy, going alone might not be fun.

First and foremost, our cons are educational events, and there's always a good mix of sessions that are hands-on, discussion, lecture, and demonstration. Even if you don't have a partner, there'll be plenty of opportunities to just sit, watch, and learn.

It also helps to have the right expectations. While plenty of friendships are formed at Bound In Boston, it is most definitely NOT a place to find a "hook-up." If you attend with the expectation that you'll find a sex partner, you're likely to be disappointed.